| Who in the world never gets angry? No one will be | | | | so and keep your focus on your breathing during this |
| the first answer to this question. There is no denial of | | | | time. Feel the breath pouring into your diaphragm and |
| the fact that anger has nothing good in store for | | | | then flowing out of your nostrils. |
| you. If the angriness grows to a great extent it can | | | | Another effective way to beat your anger is to relax |
| put you in scenarios which can prove adverse for | | | | in laughter. Laughter is one of the best cures for |
| you in every sense. So, it is always in your interest | | | | rage. So, try finding some humor in an otherwise |
| to never let anger get out of control. | | | | unpleasant situation and it will help get rid of the |
| My most recent example of allowing myself to get | | | | anger within you. If you cannot find anything funny, |
| angry. For a variety of reasons I got cranky with my | | | | you can try reading a book of entertaining stories or |
| wife yesterday morning - Mother's Day! As the day | | | | look for some jokes online. However, your humor |
| progressed I did apologize sincerely, and things | | | | should be more genuine than sarcastic. |
| eventually got back to normal. However, if I had | | | | Get some physical activity. If you don't want the |
| been having my morning dose of 'Dr Wayne Dyer | | | | anger build up to put a stress on you, it is a good |
| reading', I feel sure I would not have let that happen. | | | | idea to get your daily dose of exercise. Physical |
| I had gotten a bit lazy about my morning reading. | | | | activities keep you moving and at the same time |
| When I opened up again this morning, a day later | | | | make sure that no stored up feelings remain inside |
| (Excuses Begone!: How to Change Lifelong, | | | | you. Moreover exercise on regular basis provides help |
| Self-Defeating Thinking Habits by Dr Dyer) I came to | | | | in secreting the feel good hormones in the body. This |
| the sixth question of the section called "The Excuses | | | | in turn goes a long way in keeping a check on the |
| Begone! Paradigm Shift". The sixth question is: Can I | | | | growing wrath. Usually on Sunday mornings I go for a |
| access universal cooperation in shedding old habits? | | | | quick walk - if I had done so yesterday I'm sure I |
| Earlier in this section he advises living the four cardinal | | | | wouldn't have gotten angry/impatient with my wife, |
| virtues of 'Reverence for life', 'Natural Sincerity', | | | | most especially if I had also read Dr Dyer. |
| 'Gentleness' and 'Supportiveness'. | | | | Go to the gym and pump some iron to deal with the |
| And the page I opened on: | | | | annoyance. In case you are at work and going to the |
| "When you find yourself slipping back into an old, | | | | gymnasium is not an option, go to the washroom and |
| habitual way of being, use the moment to | | | | take a few quick jumps. You may also consider |
| concentrate on unconditionally loving someone else. | | | | stretching yourself a bit. In a matter of few minutes, |
| Then notice that the old thinking habits (for me, | | | | you may find the annoyance melt away. (I have to |
| letting myself get angry too easily) and excuses are | | | | confess here I have just resigned my Gym |
| no longer present." | | | | membership. While I quite like the gym I would prefer |
| When you read something like this (in the context of | | | | to be in the fresh air walking, skipping etc.). |
| the whole book helps, but even just as a separate | | | | Change your immediate environment. If you're in the |
| snippet is better than nothing) it is very difficult to let | | | | middle of a heated argument then changing your |
| your guard down and sink into old habits of | | | | immediate surroundings would be the smartest thing |
| bad-temperness or anger. Now, let's look at some of | | | | to do. Leave the room and go to some other place. |
| the other effective ways that will help you handle | | | | One problem with this, of course, is that you may |
| annoyance in an extremely efficient way. | | | | infuriate the other person who may think you are |
| One of the finest ways to address a sudden burst | | | | snubbing him/her. I would suggest you explain (and |
| of rage is to breathe slowly and deeply. Just the | | | | very carefully) why you are leaving. |
| straightforward task of breathing in and out will help | | | | You can also find other stuff to keep yourself |
| you chill, relax and let go of your anger. In fact, this | | | | occupied when you are angry.This will help divert |
| established strategy is one of the hottest | | | | your attention from the topic which has made you |
| methodologies of anger control in the world today. | | | | silly. Consider speaking with a buddy over the phone |
| This suggestion may sound a little obvious- since you | | | | or give yourself a favorite nibble. Best of all, of |
| are breathing even if you are indignant. However, | | | | course, is to not become angry in the first place by |
| your breathing pattern during this spurt of emotions | | | | keeping on a regular diet of two or three of the |
| is uncontrolled and often damaging. Find out how to | | | | above 'recipes' for non-anger. But most of all, keep |
| control it by taking a hold of yourself and taking in | | | | up your daily 'good thoughts' reading, from Dr Dyer |
| longer and deeper breaths. Count until ten as you do | | | | or from whomever else inspires you. |